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Monday, December 14, 2009

"be still and know that I am God."

with the hustle and bustle of christmas it's so easy to be distracted. stressed. worried. exhausted. frustrated.
it's ironic since the holiday itself celebrates news of great joy, peace, love, and hope.
just another case of our fallen world taking a beautiful thing and warping it. i know i fall into the stress of "America's Christmas" which is why i need reminded of the joyous, and true meaning of this time. our Savior and Lord, Jesus.
with the craziness of this time of year it is good to sit back and remember what this time is truly about. it is good to remember why we are here. i know i need this reminder so much.
"God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble.
Therefore we will not fear though the earth gives way, though the mountains be moved into the heart of the sea, thought its waters roar and foam, though the mountains tremble at its swelling.
There is a river whose streams make glad the city of God, the holy habitation of the Most High.
God is in the midst of her; she shall not be moved; God will help her when morning dawns.
The nations rage, the kingdoms totter; he utters his voice, the earth melts.
The Lord of hosts is with us; the God of Jacob is our fortress.
Come, behold the works of the Lord, how he has brought desolations on the earth.
He makes wars cease to the end of the earth; he breaks the bow and shatters the spear; he burns the chariots with fire.
"Be still nad know that I am God. I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth!"
The Lord of hosts is with us; the God of Jacob is our fortress." ~ Psalm 46
Lord let this season be foremost and always about You, and You only. Help us not to be overcome and consumed with this world, but rather focused and ever more in love with You. Let us remember that You are enough, and You always will be. And Lord help us to sit and be still, and remember with awe the tidings of great joy You bestowed on Your children. Thank You! Amen.

Friday, December 11, 2009

handmade christmas.

i can't believe christmas is two weeks away. i have not even gone out christmas shopping yet, and i fly out to pittsburgh this upcoming thursday! i also have not done any christmas baking either.

the plan is making christmas cut-out cookies with a vanilla glaze (a favorite recipe my family has done for years from "cooks illustrated") and some buckeyes. i'm going to make a ton, get little christmas baggies, tie them with a bow and give them out to our staff of boys and the other RD's. baking is about as far i go for homemade things. i was reading my friend suzannah's blog and she was showing the adorable things she was getting her daughter from various vendors at etsy.com. i am such a sucker for handmade things, and so far the only christmas shopping i have done has been the online variety at etsy.com.

here are the things i have purchased and i'm quite excited:


some pretty stud earrings for my cousins. (sofiamasri.)

these lovely little pouches to put the earrings in along w/ gift card/lip balm. (GimCarry.)

this adorable set of heart dishes for me madre. (redhotpottery.)

ok and i couldn't resist it. i gave in and bought myself this dress. *sigh* i know. her stuff is absolutely gorgeous. i wish i could afford to get her whole line. (heirloom08.)


i love buying handmade though, because you can get some beautiful and unique things for people that you aren't going to find in department stores. it's a lot of fun searching through etsy and seeing what you will find.

now if i could just finish my christmas shopping and start baking.

Sunday, November 29, 2009

shale, screen your worry from what you won't ever find.

thanksgiving has come and gone and with it the long weekend. debo and i had a relaxing time with friends and each other. i think it was all much needed. God has been so good to us here in indiana, in more ways then we could have ever imagined.
the weekend before thanksgiving, hodson hall teamed up with it's sister dorm evan's hall in it's newly annual "Evening of Elegance." basically it's an excuse to get dressed up and eat in the banquet hall, with pretty decorations, and some live entertainment. here are some snap shots from that event...
debo and i.
the boys and i were striking our band pose.
hodson & evan's staff.
our beloved hodson staff.
and yes that is me randomly dressed up in a pinapple that looks like a kiwi costume. debo had this stupid thing for res-life advertising.
good times. good times.
so, with the end of thanksgiving starts the christmas season. i look forward to festive activities ahead with our family, friends, and of course our hodson boys. it's hard not to love this time of year. here are some pictures from past holidays.
me & some of my cousins.
our staff last year re-enacting the nativity.
i also, look forward to cuddling w/ this cutie. my chance.
*sigh* lots of love.

Thursday, November 26, 2009

thankful.

happy thanksgiving all!

as i write i am currently watching the macy's day parade on tv. gearing up for the following Best in Show - Dog Show, and then of course Miracle on 34th street. it has always been tradition in my fam to watch thru all these things while preparing the thanksgiving meal.

this year debo and i are not spending the holiday w/ any fam. debo has to be on duty for thanksgiving, so instead of traveling to PA we are here in indiana. it's a strange thing, and i def. miss the fam today. however, i don't miss traveling 6 hrs for a short break.

so, instead debo and i are hosting our own thanksgiving. we are having another RD couple over for dinner. and on the menu is of course turkey, gravy, mashed potatoes, cranberry sauce, green bean casserole, homemade bread, and stuffing. we have to keep it small since it's only four of us. it's funny because when i read that list it seems like quite a bit, but thanksgiving w/ my fam in pittsburgh is like a meal for 20 or more people, and we have so many different kinds of dishes it's crazy. things like fennel, beef, sweet potatoes, coleslaw, etc. so much! ha.

also, funny random thought, but in my family i was never in charge of making the turkey. my aunt always did that, and since being married i have roasted 5 turkeys for various things. turkey is actually the easiest thing to make since once you season it, it cooks itself. this year i'm going to season w/ butter and herbs, as well as some chopped onions and apples. yummy!

God has been so good. i am so blessed with a loving husband. a home. a job. friends and family that are so wonderful. i am so thankful.

"Be still and know that I am God.
I will be exalted among the nations,
I will be exalted in the earth!" ~ Psalm 46:10

and thank you Jesus for delivering us from this world. amen.

i wish you all the best thanksgivings! <3

Thursday, November 12, 2009

and renew a right spirit within me.

"For what we need to know, of course is not just that God exists, not just that beyond the steely brightness of the stars there is a cosmic intelligence of some kind that keeps the whole show going, but that there is a God right here in the thick of our day-by-day lives who may not be writing messages about himself in the stars but in one way or another is trying to get messages through our blindness as we move around down here knee-deep in the fragrant muck and misery and marvel of the world. It is not objective proof of God's existence that we want but the experience of God's presence. That is the miracle we are really after, and that is also, I think the miracle that we really get." ~ Frederick Buechner

it's interesting how satan can feed someone lies for so long that one begins to believe there could be no hope. the Lord continues to amaze me. when my broken heart, full of doubt and hopelessness consumes my thoughts, He vanquishes all evil and renews my soul. i realize that my fear and my doubt come merely out of not trusting in His power. i am FREE.

Friday, November 6, 2009

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*sigh* oh friday evening how i love thee. it's so nice to be done with a busy week. now i'm going to spend the evening with my hub-hub. dinner, a movie, and unwinding.

we need this so bad. we have hardly had two minutes alone together at all. the plus and minus of living w/ college students 24/7.

have a lovely weekend where you are!

Saturday, October 31, 2009

happy halloween.

where on earth did october go? i must say that i'm sad to see it leave.

it is indeed my favorite month. i adore fall, and october is the peak of the season. i also love pumpkins, mackintosh apples, mulled cider, bonfires, corn mazes, costumes, corny old horror movies, pumpkin cookies/bread/pie/seeds, and perfect hoodie weather. *sigh*

here is some recap in pictures of the past few weeks since last posted...

dana & moffat came to visit.

headed to pittsburgh to be a part of meg's BIG day!


i'm a nerd. i know.
becca and i waiting for the aisle call.
me with the beautiful bride!
i had my kiddos out in the leaves the other day. it was so precious. keagan was having so much fun, he would literally get running starts before plummeting into the leaf piles. no one even showed him this, he just started doing it all by himself. we probably played outside a good hour and a half. i wish i would have had my camera.
well i hope you all have a fabulous saturday (i just love saturdays), and a lovely halloween.
wow...the christmas commercials have already started, and halloween isn't even over yet.

Monday, October 12, 2009

a day in pictures.

off to the pumpkin farm...
tall john and mocha.
nothing like making out in fake john deer tractor.
tall john and i picked the perfect pumpkins (for us)
going in for the stem.
taking off the tops.
debo, tall, and myself pulling out the guts.
hannah & i making pumpkin seeds.
still pulling out guts.
debo starting to stencil.
oh fussy.
the finished products. (mine is the warty pumpkin with the simple face)
the boys worked hard...and did really great for it being the FIRST pumpkin they have ever carved.
debo & i loving over the pumpkins.
i confess i was a bit smitten over marvin...my pumpkin.

Wednesday, October 7, 2009

and i've been wondering 'bout that change.

*sigh* sometimes i find myself envious of other peoples lives. it's like they have it all together. it's like everything is set, lovely, and strangely in their control.

now deep down i know none of that is true. they don't. they have shit happen. they have struggles, frustrations, pressures, fears, concerns, loss, anger and sadness.

and they def. have no control, for lets face it: none of us do.

but man sometimes i just wish that maybe i could live their life for one day. see what it was like. ironically it would probably leave me rushing back into my own skin. maybe today i just feel unnerved in my own skin.

hm. i don't know. it's also interesting that the people i typically envy i don't even know. they are really but strangers or acquaintances at most. so in truth i don't even know them enough to know their humanness. which is probably why their lives seem so perfect, fascinating, and untouchable.

i love how i am self-analyzing myself on here. ha. just another glimpse into my inner psyche via my blog. yep, i am indeed human, and yes, i am indeed being a selfish little girl right now.

Thursday, October 1, 2009

i've left bethlehem and i feel free.

Fall is officially here! hello october. hello cool fall weather. hello leave changes, pumpkins, and mulled cider.

i dare say that i am greatly enjoying the ushering in of fall this october. it is my favorite season of the year and this is my favorite month. recently i have been dragging my poor husband on these walks with me through the local high school(s) cross country path that makes it way past the athletic fields, brush fields, and farm fields. the line of trees in the background make for a lovely view which i am hoping will only grow more beautiful with the changing colors.

in other news i have found a local pumpkin farm that debo and i are going to be going to next weekend. i'm so excited, it has hay-rides, you pick pumpkins in the fields, it has corn mazes, a country store, petting zoo, and more. our good friend tall john is coming to visit us next week as well, and we shall be dragging him with us on this adventure, with most likely a few of our hodson boys, and hopefully a nice group of the other RDs.

things have been so busy as of late. debo and i were talking about how we are lucky to get and hour together. between our boys being over, coffee dates with my girlfriends and students, and just other things that book our time (for instance, last night i was on a panel discussion about female relationships/camaraderie in our sister building) and work during the day, its enough to say "bring on the weekend!" tonight debo and one of our boys, fussy, is helping our friend andra move a couch, so i'm going to have andra and fussy over for dinner afterwards. then it will be off to the gym and over to steph's apt for The Office. good times. :-D

on a completely different note...its been so cute bundling my kiddos up and taking them outside to play. they crack me up. also, keagan who is not even two yet is obsessed with letters. he already knows what most of them are and he can say for practically all of them the sounds they make. he doesn't even talk yet besides some basic words, but he knows his alphabet! it's crazy! being with kids so much, and talking to moms def. makes me look forward to the day i become a mama. thats a few years down the road mind you! (i'm only 23) but i think it such a beautiful thing and i am really looking forward to it.

i hope its becoming Fall where you are! :-D

Sunday, September 27, 2009

held to the past too aware of the pending.

"When we are at wits' end for an answer, then the Holy Spirit can give us an answer. But how can He give us an answer when we are still well supplied with all sorts of answers of our own?" ~ Karl Barth

"But now that you have come to know God, or rather to be known by God, how can you turn back again to the weak and worthless elementary principles of the world, whose slaves you want to be once more?" ~ Galatians 4:9

free to be in Him.

Saturday, September 12, 2009

so long sweet summer...

wow. it's been a little while.

i must say this september has been positively lovely. the weather has just been perfect, not too hot, not to cold, and def. ushering in what i hope to be a beautiful autumn. i absolutely adore the Fall. growing up in my family, fall meant a lot of traditions: pumpkin farm trip, pumpkin carving, family bon fires, birthday parties (for like 4 different cousins), long walks, craft show hopping, applefest, scary movie watching, thanksgiving gathering, steeler supporting (not to mention the start of hockey season), just to name a few.

sadly living 6 hours from my family just kinda sucks sometimes. i won't be able to do all of those things with them. *sigh* however, I will be in pittsburgh in october for a wedding i am in, and i'm staying a day and half afterwards just to spend time with my mama (which means= long walks, craftshow going). so i have to look on the brightside. plus, debo and i are going to hit up a local pumpkin farm here in indiana, and we are going to have our own thanksgiving this year with some of the RD's here over that break, i also hope to check out some different festivals and things in the marion/indianapolis area. you have to make the best out of where you are, so debo and i shall.

wow, God is so good. i am enjoying my fall here in indiana so far (which is saying something compared to last year). i think i'm just growing and i'm really okay with that.

Wednesday, September 2, 2009

i cannot do it all on my own.

just thought i'd post some photos of our 2nd year at IWU so far.
(our '09-10 staff of hodson boys <3)
(at the local water park)
(our sister staff, love these chicas)
(my husband being cheesy and romantic)
(debo had his staff dress up as soldiers for pictures, he just looked so cute i went in for a kiss)

Tuesday, September 1, 2009

far beyond the blaring street lights.

life is never picture perfect but some moments are quite sweet...

this start of our second year at IWU has been truly been wonderful. our RA staff this year is AMAZING. it's been so much fun and so easy to be real with them. last friday i ended up at the movies with two of our guys to see Julie & Julia because Debo was a punk and didn't want to go with me. we've together all gone frisbee golfing, campus golfing, swimming, making food, hanging out, and just becoming a close knit family of Hodson Hall. it's been such a blessing.

it has also been great already having built relationships with other students here and just continuing on with them, and it also makes meeting new students even easier. it's great to see guys (and girls) just feeling comfortable walking into our apt now (when the door is open, mind you) and feeling comfortable about sitting down and hanging out with us.

the RD staff this year is also great. i have been getting to know a lot of the girls, and although friendship building is a process, i def. know there will be some deepened friendships at the end of this year. i have had some lovely conversations already, and some good hang out time. i grabbing coffee this evening with a few girls tonight.

most importantly, i feel a peace with God that i have not had for such a long time. i feel like i remember why i'm here, and why my life has so much more meaning than what culture deems appropriate.

and with all of these amazing moments, yes, the imperfection has shown its face...

some conversations with our boys have been really heart breaking. there have been some situations i just can't fix and somethings are just out of my control. sometimes i still get down about what i should be doing next. i get down and frustrated with baby-sitting and loose patience with my kiddos. sometimes Debo and i argue because of something i said. sometimes i don't feel close to God, and i get distracted and caught up in other things.

however, even with these blemishes to a "picture perfect life" there is such a peace in knowing that He has got my back. a peace in knowing that when i catch myself worrying, and i think of how faulty and a waste of time it is, i start to stop. there's a peace that my main focus is shifting from emptiness (pointless distractions/worries/things) to being filled up with the Spirit. there's a peace in giving my time and energy into others, and loving them as much as i can. there's a peace in surrendering, even when it scares me, to the Lord.

i realize my posts lately have been God focused/spiritually saturated. and the last thing i want to sound like is a christian on a rampage or a christian cliche. the thing is i just see God moving me because i'm finally moving back to Him. it's just refreshing not to be obsessing over my money, my body, and my "me" time (i.e.: myself) and retreating instead into my Savior's arms.

"Come and hear, all you who fear God, and I will tell what he has done for my soul. I cried to him with my mouth, and high praise was on my tongue. If I had cherished iniquity in my heart, the Lord would not have listened. But truly God has listened; he has attended to the voice of my prayer. Blessed be God, because he has not rejected my prayer or removed his steadfast love from me!" ~ Psalm 66:16-20

Friday, August 28, 2009

we all have wood and nails.

"The critical question for our generation--and for every generation--is this: If you could have heaven, with no sickness, and with all the friends you ever had on earth, and all the food you ever liked, and all the leisure activities you ever enjoyed, and all the natural beauties you ever saw, all the physical pleasures you ever tasted, and no human conflict or any natural disasters, could you be satisfied with heaven, if Christ was not there?" ~ John Piper, God Is the Gospel

if we are deeply in love with God, we know we could never be satisfied in a heaven without Christ.

but doesn't that question make you question your own heart and love for Jesus? i def. know it blew me off my chair when i read that.

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"Oh God, you are my God, earnestly I seek you; my soul thirsts for you, my body longs for you, in a dry and weary land where there is no water. I have seen you in the sanctuary and beheld your power and your glory. Because your love is better than life, my lips will glorify you. I will praise you as long as I live, and in your name I will lift up my hands. My soul will be satisfied as with the richest of foods; with singing lips mouth will praise you." ~ Psalm 63:1-5

" Why are the words of Psalm 63:1-5 not an honest reflection of our lives on most days? Lukewarm living and claiming Christ's name simultaneously is utterly disgusting to God. And when we are honest, we have to admit that it isn't fulfilling or joyful to us, either.

But the solution isn't to try harder, fail, and then make bigger promises, only to fail again. It does no good to muster up more love for God, to will yourself to love Him more. When loving Him becomes obligation, one of many things we have to do, we end up focusing even more on ourselves. No wonder so few people want to hear from us about what we ourselves feel is a boring, guilt ridden chore!

...We are called to surrender everything for Christ--a concept most churchgoers are not particularly thrilled by. So what is missing?

God wants to change us; He died so that we could change. The answer lies in letting Him change you. In His counsel to the lukewarm church in Laodicea he declared, "Here I am! I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in and eat with him, and he with me" (Rev. 3:20). His counsel wasn't to "try harder," but rather to let Him in. As James wrote, "Come near to God and he will come near to you" (4:8). " ~ Francis Chan, Crazy Love, pp102-103

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Lord may your love blow me away and my love for You overcome all the fear, worry, selfishness, and materialism that i let get in the way of You. Please help to change my heart so that my want matches my need for only You.

Sunday, August 23, 2009

random thought.

"it gains the more it gives
and it rises with the fall
so hand me that remote
can't you see all that stuff's a sideshow?" - frou frou

"everybody wake up." - brand new


hm. these lyrics just seem so appropriate in so many ways for me.

i love you my Jesus.

i love you Debo.

and i love you, yes you.

Wednesday, August 19, 2009

Come near to God and he will come near to you. - James 4:8

" If life is a river, then pursuing Christ requires swimming upstream. When we stop swimming or actively following Him, we automatically begin to be swept downstream.
Or, to use another metaphor more familiar to city people, we are on a never-ending downward escalator. In order to grow, we have to turn around and sprint up the escalator, putting up with perturbed looks from everyone else who is gradually moving downward.
I believe much of the American churchgoing population, while not specifically swimming downstream, is slowly floating away from Christ. It isn't a conscious choice, it is nonetheless happening because little in their lives propels them toward Christ.
Perhaps it sounds as though I believe you have to work your way to Jesus. I don't. I fully believe that we are saved by grace, through faith, by the gift of God, and that the true faith manifests itself through our actions. As James writes, "Faith by itself, if not accompanied by action, is dead" (2:17). The lives of many people who call themselves "Christians" in America lack manifestations of a vital and active faith.
And this, to be perfectly honest, frightens me. It keeps me up at night. It causes me to pray desperately and fervently for my congregation, for the groups of people I speak to, and for the church as a whole.
Henri Nouwen writes about this in his book With Open Hands: "It is hard to bear with people who stand still along the way, lose heart, and seek their happiness in little pleasures which they cling to... You feel sad about all that self-indulgence and self-satisfaction, for you know with an indestructible certainty that something greater is coming..."
How many of us would really leave our families, our jobs, our education, our friends, our connections, our familiar surroundings, and our homes if Jesus asked us to? If He just showed up and said, "Follow me"? No explanation. No directions.
You could follow Him straight up a hill to be crucified. Maybe He would lead you to another country, and you would never see your family again. Or perhaps you would stay put, but He would ask you to spend your time helping people who will never love you back and never show gratitude for what you gave up.
Consider this carefully-- have you ever done so? Or was your decision to follow Christ flippant, based solely on feelings and emotion, made without counting the cost?
What scares me the most are the people who are lukewarm and just don't care. I think that if I did a poll of the readers of this book, many of you would say, "Yeah, I am definitely lukewarm at times, but I'm not really at a place to give more to God." Many of us believe we have as much of God as we want right now, a reasonable portion of God among all the other things in our lives. Most of our thoughts are centered on the money we want to make, the school we want to attend, the body we aspire to have, the spouse we want to marry, the kind of person we want to become... But the fact is that nothing should concern us more than our relationship with God; it's about eternity, and nothing compares with that. God is not someone who can be tacked on to our lives.
Remember the visions of John and Isaiah of the throne room of God? Remember the pictures of the galaxies and how tiny we are in comparison? Remember the diversity of God, seen in thousands of species of trees in the rain forest? We say to the Creator of all this magnitude and majesty, "Well, I'm not sure You are worth it... You see, I really like my car, or my little sin habit, or my money, and I'm really not sure I want to give them up, even if it means I get you."
When we put it plainly like this-- as a direct choice between God and our stuff-- most of us hope we would choose God. But we need to realize that how we spend our time, what our money goes toward, and where we will invest our energy is equivalent to choosing God or rejecting Him. How could we think for even a second that something on this puny little earth compares to the Creator and Sustainer and Savior of it all?
We disgust God when we weigh and compare Him against the things of this world. It makes Him sick when we actually decide those things are better than God Himself. We believe we don't need anything Jesus offers, but we fail to realize that slowly, almost imperceptibly, we are drifting downstream. And in the process we are becoming blind, being stripped naked, and turning into impoverished wretches.
..... Are you willing to say to God that He can have whatever He wants? Do you believe that wholehearted commitment to Him is more important than any other thing or person in your life? Do you know that nothing you do in this life will ever matter, unless it is about loving God and loving the people He has made?
If the answer is to those questions is yes, then let your bet match your talk.
True faith means holding nothing back; it bets everything on the hope of eternity. "

~ Francis Chan, "Crazy Love" (pp 95-97)


this hit home for me.

Friday, August 14, 2009

we could be heros. forever and ever.

so ellie (the four year old i watch) and i were sitting down to lunch. our topic of conversation shifted from "who made the united states?" to "how does God make babies in mommy's tummys" to my personal favorite question of the day, "What will Keagan say when he puts a baby in his wife's tummy someday?" note that keagan is her nearly 2 year old brother.

hahaha. wow. gotta love little kids.

this week has been so busy. i'm absolutely exhausted. full days with 2 or 3 kids, and then busy nights with students and getting to know new Resident Director's (and spouses). i must say that i love hanging out with the new RD's. it's been so good. this is just a great staff this year and i love everyone's willingness to connect and hang out. i'm hoping to see The Time Traveler's Wife with a bunch of the girls tomorrow.

in other news, i feel like God's continuing to show me the meaning of having my identity in Him, along with layering on humility and patience. i def. feel humbled in just being a full time baby sitter with a college degree. i def. need to be patient as i trust that God will help reveal what direction i want to go in with my future and bring me to a job/career that i can feel passionate about. and i def. need to remember i am not defined by who i am with or what job/career/talent/passion i'm doing or fulfilling. i am defined first and foremost by Him, and He is enough. everything else will fall into place. it's just trusting, praying, waiting, and then pushing myself to going out and achieving what i am called to next.

right now, it's just this (babysitting/figuring out if i want to get my masters/or what career-job is for me)... and well, that's an okay place to be.

Sunday, August 9, 2009

and so it begins...

although the summer heat is now in full swing here in indiana. i know deep down that summer is moving fast. which even though i adore fall, i hate to see summer go because i despise winter. however, i refuse to think about all of this now and instead just remind myself that summer lasts thru september anyway.

indiana wesleyan university hired 10 new RD positions this year, which considering that there are 15 positions all together is kinda crazy. debo and i were very excited about the prospect of more new RD's because when he was hired, there was only 1 other newbie, and most of the RD's were going on their 4th year or more. the new people hired are made up of individuals a lot closer in age to us, some married, some single, and some married w/ children. it has been really nice getting to know them this past week, and thru out this weekend. it's just refreshing to be able to build some new relationships with our peers who are experiencing (or are going to experience) the same positons we are in everyday. we are very excited for this upcoming year. we can't wait to have all our guys back in hodson hall, but we also just hope that along with our student relationships we can build some close friendships this year with a lot of these new RD's.

this year i'm also going to be taking on more kiddos. no schedule is really set yet, but it looks right now to be a mixture of my usual two (ellie 4, keagan 1 1/2), with a 2 1/2 year old boy named caleb, and a 18 month year old boy named dovev. on monday i'm going to have ellie, keagan, and caleb. i'm hoping that i will be able to handle 3 or more. i know i'm going to be even more exhausted at the end of the day, but the extra money will be very helpful to us. the only downside is the hours might be kinda weird when i'm watching ones of different parents. for instance i would usually start at 9 to watch ellie and keagan, but with caleb i have to start at 7, which means i might start at 7 and then work 8+ hrs because sitting times overlap. it should be interesting. the kiddos are all very cute though.

with the sitting i also need to be researching IWU grad program stuff, and start working on getting ready for that. you know applications, getting loans/grants, possibly the GRE. blah. you know those tedious things you have to do to go to school. i'm just hoping that i am making the right decision. i guess i'm just second guessing myself, but talking to different people i hear of so many different grad programs that i just really want to choose the one that is right for me. i want to make sure that counseling is indeed where i should be heading. we shall see. perhaps higher education is the field i'd rather pursue. *sigh* who knows. i just wish i was that super driven ambitious person who had big plans and the will to overcome all odds. i'm just so intimidated i think i just want to make the right choice before i dive in, and the problem then becomes "what is the right choice for me?" hm.


it's crazy training time right now for debo, and it's the start of Nanny time for me.
i hope this 1st semester can be a bright one.
i guess it couldn't be as daunting as last years!

i wish i could be watching this cutie too!
(this is izzy, brian and janelle jensen's little girl)


Tuesday, August 4, 2009

told my love to wreck it all, cut out all the ropes and let me fall.

"this is my excavation and today is kumran.
everything that happens is from now on.
this is pouring rain.
this is paralyzed." ~ bon iver "Re: Stacks"

it's strange to have alone time when you have gone without it for so long. debo is on a RD retreat until wednesday, and left early monday morning. i don't have sitting this week until thursday or at least friday, so i've had a lot of time on my hands all of a sudden. it's a strange thing when your used to being busy.

i've been distant from God for a while now. i've been distracted and just not really having any form of dialogue with Him. there's been some prayer, yes...but not a lot of me just talking to God. i opened my bible yesterday for the first time in months. the thing is i've felt the distance. i've felt isolated, scared, selfish, and insecure. these things have poured out from me into every aspect of my life.

it's awful how insecurities bring out this ugly side of you. a side that frustrates those who know you better, or turns away people who know you not at all. it brings down your friends and loved ones, and leaves you making decisions strictly for your own personal gain.

i guess it should never surprise me that just talking to God can calm the fear inside me.
and i'm not talking about just some empty pray of formality...but rather pouring out every fear i have to Him.

we fear being alone. we fear not being connected. we fear we have no control, esp of ourselves. it doesn't matter if we are married or single, rich or poor, surrounded by people or isolated in a cubicle. we long deeply for wholeness.

i don't always live it right. i don't always even want too.

but at the end of the day LORD, please let it always be You.

Tuesday, July 28, 2009

little bits.

- wow. so we're back from jamaica. it was an amazing 2 week trip.
def. the best trip by far. i won't get into details, because i'm kinda lazy and don't feel like writing them, but yeah it was just wonderful. just great to see friends, and great to experience harmons in a deeper way.

- it's already of whirlwind of transition. however, i feel like this summer has been a constant whirlwind of traveling, living out of suitcase, and going somewhere else. so perhaps i'm getting used to this.

- now we are in pittsburgh for a couple days. my cousin clare was in china most of the summer and we haven't seen each other since christmas, until yesterday night. so today, tomorrow and possibly even thursday will be spent with her. last night she showed me pics of her trip and we caught up, and today we're going to a movie and lunch, and tomorrow we are heading to kennywood with debo and my brother. plus whatever else we feel like doing. i love her so much. i love my cousins so much. hopefully i'll get to see my cousin jena again as well before we head back to indy at the end of this week.

- i can't believe how fast the summer has gone. it's going to be hard to leave pittsburgh i think, and at the same time good to get back into our own place and our own way of life again.

- oh and we got a new car! which we are picking up sometime today! it's a 2009 nissan versa 4-door hatchback. it's blue. it's new. it's crazy since i've never owned a new car before. we're super excited.

- and i think this the worst blog i've ever written. sorry it sounds like a middle schooler wrote this. (nothing against middle schoolers, mind you).

expect better updates soon.

Thursday, July 2, 2009

why worry?



so i'm not sure why i let myself get overwhelmed. i really shouldn't at all. everything falls into place. everything.
- we our in the process of buying a new car, and thanks to the government we might actually be able to get a good deal because our current car is super old and has poor gas milage. thank you obama.
- i asked for a pay raise out of necessity, which i hated doing because i don't like things to be about money. i got it and the mom i work for also is super willing to be accomodating with me with a possibility of taking on another kiddo on top of her two.
- i have decided that i want to take on grad school, and i hope to be squared away and ready to start in January 2010 at IWU. i want to do their masters in counseling, my focus being on school counseling. i have thought about this quite a bit especially while i was working on my undergrad degree. my best friend reg and i would talk about various things we would be interested in doing after we graduated, and that one she always saw me doing, and i always kinda saw myself doing as well. however, the biggest hindering factor to me was money. it scares me to go into more debt, when i already have quite a bit. yet, it hit me one day, since to pursue higher education (unless you are or come from a wealthy family) is to deal with and pay off debt. it's just a part of it, and it's not worth getting scared over. if this is what i want to do i need to pursue it. and just realizing that has given me so much peace.

i always want control. i let that sense of wanting control ruin the fact that really i just need to have faith. i need to trust and know that its going to be okay. things don't always happen in the way or order we sometimes like but it doesn't mean that God is going to leave me alone. i find i need reminded of this often. perhaps i'll get it down someday.

Sunday, June 28, 2009

livin. lovin. laughin.

WOW. craziness. a lot of moving around, a lot of visiting. a lot of me trying to figure out my life to some degree.

i'm just trying to think about what i want to do next. a masters in counseling? become a chiropractor? become a teacher? i don't know. money scares me. life scares me. or maybe american pressure and ideals scares me. i hate that you have to go into debt to do anything that this country deems acceptable.

luckily i have a very supportive husband. i also have an AMAZING God, who sometimes I just stink at trusting.

prayers for the journey of my life are much appreciated.

Tuesday, June 9, 2009

its been a while...

wow. so i've been kinda slacking in my blogging here lately. i guess summer will do that to you...spend more time outside doing things and less time in front of the computer shivering under a pile of blankets.

so our crazy travel heavy summer has begun.

we currently are in pittsburgh now. tom and jenine's wedding is this friday, and debo is one of the groomsmen. he will be gone with the boys from tomorrow afternoon on, which i think will be good for him to get some "man-time" with his good guy friends from college. i think the wedding will be a lot of fun, we'll get to see a lot of friends which i look forward too.

my mom and i have also been spending some good quality time together. we grabbed lunch at the cheescake factory yesterday and got ourselves petticures. we took a long walk, chatted non-stop, and just had a really nice time. *sigh* i love visiting my pittsburgh.

we'll be leaving here this upcoming sunday and then traveling 5 hrs to cinncinatti. debo's best man from our wedding is getting married the following saturday there, and debo is in that wedding. plus we are going to help debo's mom get packed all up as she is moving back out to philly/jersey area. then after the weekend as we see his mom off on her 12 hour journey, we're going to stop at the columbus zoo (debo and i love zoo's and animals!), before we make our way back to pittsburgh again.
we'll be there in time to celebrate my 23 b-day w/ my fam, and then the first two weeks of july we have tony mastris and becca's wedding, and then jenn reill and ron's wedding the following weekend. (at least it's all in the pittsburgh area!)

then we head to harmons, jamaica for two weeks at the end of july. we'll be there with the won by one missions organization.

then we fly back into pittsburgh, stay a couple days so i can see my cousin clare (who has left me for china most of the summer, and most of the time i'm in pittsburgh), and then we finally head back to indiana the last week of july, as debo's IWU RD training starts august 1.
crazy i know. it will be good i think though.
on a completely differnt note. debo and i just celebrated our 1 year anniversary on sunday. i can't believe it's been a year! life goes fast. we went to go see the movie UP together, and took a nice long walk, and then we had a delicious dinner w/ my family, and my mom had homemade chocolate cake to celebrate. it was lovely. this first year together has had a lot of challenges, a lot of transitions, and a lot of love. we're aiming for at least 49 more years together. hehehe.

from the picture vault: here's jon & i at my bridal shower in march '08
(surrounded by a bunch of my girl friends)

Friday, May 22, 2009

summer skin.

Squeaky swings and tall grass
The longest shadows ever cast
The water's warm and children swim
And we frolicked about in our summer skin

I don't recall a single care
Just greenery and humid air
Then Labor day came and went
And we shed what was left of our summer skin
~ death cab for cutie

debo and i have been talking about how we feel our summer skin growing in. it's like the layers of winter skin begin to fall off allowing the warm air to creep into your pores. it's actually being able to smell the air instead of the cold that freezes the insides of your nose. it's feeling exhausted simply because you soaked yourself in pure sunshine. it's a charming, refreshing, and sometimes dare i say tedious time of year, but i love it.
*sigh* oh, sunshine! twist ice cream cones w/ rainbow sprinkles. sun dresses. flip flops. swimming. vacations. rollerblading. farmers markets. fresh air. the zoo. long walks outside. BBQ's. fireworks. painted toe nails. pittsburgh baseball games. time well spent. i love growing into my summer skin.

Saturday, May 16, 2009

visiting blessings. :-D

since we have moved to indiana we have been blessed to have so many people visit and/or stay with us. we love having visitors from out of town, and it has truly been such a blessing to have loving fam and friends willing to trek out here. so thank you: mom, clare, bekah & andrew (on several occasions), mrs. debo, jeff paul, tall john terrana (on several occasions), seth roush, adam foss, chito, tay-tay longo, tyler marwood, megan drew, helen papadopoulos, sarah bruckles & paul, erin & dave stamile, steph kunes & kaitlin anderson (your presense was felt), dana beckwith (danish), and of course our most recent visitors, heather moffat (moo) and katie klos (klosser). so thank you all again for making our first year in indiana brighter!
here are a few picture highlights from my time w/ the girls!
(we all kinda suck at taking pictures so there really weren't many pics to choose from, lol)

(crusing in the previa)
(eating strawberry shortcake)
(a ridiculous sign in marion)
(heather, me and katie at the iwu fountain)
(ah mi pueblo, our favorite local mexican place)
(moo being moo)
(walking out of hodson hall)
(the girls cuddling)
(the girls loved mi pueblo so much we went twice w/ them)

*Sigh* good times good times! have a great week all! oh and just so you know, you are always welcome to visit us here in good old marion, IN!